The Science of How to Improve Your Relationship (Hint: It Doesn’t Include Counselling)

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by Steven Gordon

The last of couple of months can be strenuous for most relationships. Christmas, New Year’s, and Valentine’s Day can cause unnecessary stress on any relationship.

It’s no surprise that these months are usually called the break up season. Regardless if this is true or not, you may be in a long-term relationship that is definitely worth working on.

Fortunately, some scientific studies have revealed some amazing tips that can definitely improve an already solid relationship even further!

Although some studies may place responsibility on the husband’s positive outlook, I’m going to focus on how both involved parties can work together.

5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

1. Always Celebrate the Good News

Studies show that your partner, consciously and subconsciously, will always gauge how you react to any good news they share with you. Research also demonstrated that a lack of interest or enthusiasm had negative impact on the intimacy in a relationship.

Why? It’s pretty obvious, no one really feels appreciated if their good news is brushed aside as if it were nothing.

Be proactive and always celebrate your partner’s good news with words of encouragement, support, and interest. Trust me, this can only lead you both to happiness.

2. Keep a Clear Mind

This may seem unromantic, but you need to accept that not all relationships are worth salvaging. Sometimes, you simply need to end things, learn from the relationship, and move on to a relationship that is worth working for.

This does not mean that a disagreement is a sign to bail out. Experts recommend taking the time to periodically evaluate your relationship.

Start by asking yourself the following questions: Is anyone in the relationship abusive? Codependent? Jealous? Disrespectful? Do you bring out the best in each other? Are you comfortable enough to be yourself?

3. Work on Yourself Before Wreck Yourself

Thanks to popular culture, we have a common misconception that meeting our ideal partner will instantly be our gateway to lifelong happiness. Nothing could be further from the truth. It also puts an unfair and insane amount of pressure on your partner.

Studies show that people who are already happy before they start a relationship are significantly more satisfied with their long-term relationships.

Before embarking on a new relationship take time to discover what really brings joy to your life. Spend time to enjoy your friends and lose yourself to your favorite hobby.

4. Discover How Your Partner Interprets Things

Everyone sees things differently; it’s a fact of life. Although you may think one of your signs of affection is the ultimate sign of affection, your partner may think otherwise.

Take the time to discover what actions, gestures, or activities your partner values most in your relationship. Also make sure you communicate your own preferences with your partner.

With this in mind, both of you will maximize the joy you enjoy together.

5. Touch Goes a Really Long Way

Attachment theory stipulates that physical contact has serious long-term effects in the relationships between human beings. It’s commonly used to describe how important it is for babies growing up.

But it also applies to your relationship! Individuals surveyed report that they have increased feelings of support, trust, and safety when they regularly receive physical affection.

Oh, and sleeping naked could also have powerful health benefits.

Never underestimate the power of a hug or cuddle!